In my opinion the demographic that is ignored the most, or at least not considered as much in the what and how of church, is men. We say we want more men in the church, but do our actions back that up?
Crying, flowers, high pitched music … where’s the guy stuff?
Here’s a great list from David Moore of some of the things guys need in a church.
A few of my favorites:
Men need to be able to sing the music. I won’t say much here, I can’t sing a lick. But if all the songs are in a high pitch, all the time, a man will never take a stab at singing. If he never sings, he will never get to experience a quality of worship most enjoy.
Full disclaimer: I’m part of the worship team at my church, so I’m singing a lot of the stuff that isn’t “man-friendly.” I’ve heard many worship leader wonder out loud why the men don’t get into the worship time but then we sing music that is either to high or all about the fluffery and emotions that guys just don’t get like the ladies do. How about a hard hitting song (that doesn’t require dancing around) about how God kicks the snot out of the enemy?
Men need a friend. Most of all men need another man. If a man builds a real friendship within your church body, good things happen. A man with a “brother” will be a better man at home and at work.
I struggle with this. I would really like to have more guy friends that I can hang out with. But do you know how awkward and weird it is to call a guy up and say “would you like to go to the movies?” I don’t have a good answer for this, but just raising my hand to say ‘yes, please I’ll have one of those.’
David also hits something that I’m completely passionate about and why I do what I do: Men need to see first rate quality. Men notice poor quality. Whether it’s the talent of the band or voices of the choir, he will notice. Pay attention to the quality of your flyers and web site. Make sure events and small groups are run properly and cover relevant subjects.
Go check out the post, there are six other things that he points out that men need in a church. Sadly many of these are lacking in the church. Want more fathers, husbands, etc., in your church? Start paying attention to them and their needs.